Get Over It, No One Cares, Use Common Sense - So Over Are Ranting, Trauma-Looping, Being Stuck

All the disruption getting to you? JPMorgan Chase head Jamie Dimon mandates: Get over it. 

Have a grievance? In most cases, no one cares, except maybe your mother and your dog. 

And when it comes to navigating the workplace which is in turmoil, you're expected to leverage common sense. Mentors are few who will direct you what to do or not do. 

The expectation is that you're a resilient adult who'll get through whatever. Even in my career coaching (and sideline in tarot reading) I have raised the vibration on reality. And those realities include: Getting, holding and moving on to better work - that's tough. You have to master self-care since no one wants to hear it. And as you age it's more likely you could wind up homeless. 

So out is the "t" word. That is, "trauma." That's obvious in the tone of the Vanity Fair's article by Anna Peele on how Prince Harry has created an identity based on trauma. The buzz phrase for getting locked in the self that way is "trauma-looping." Incidentally, publishing houses are no longer accepting manuscripts about childhood trauma. 

Actually none of this is new. At least not to those of us who came of professional age in the post-war boom. There was so much opportunity. That included professional development once we landed the good job. The training was: Never present a problem to superiors. Not without a solution. Otherwise, we were told that we'd come across as cry babies. 

Perhaps the current time can be summed as Solutions-Driven. That's circling back to an era that was pre-Woke. A 2010 article in SuperLawyer zeroed in on how Paul Weiss chair Brad Karp would focus late into the night on just that: custom-making exactly the right solution for a client problem. That became so much his signature that a powerhouse client wondered if the guy ever slept. 

In one of Truman Capote's short stories set in New York, the narrator defines "growing up" as the shock realization that not everyone loves you. Right not in the workplace there isn't a lot of love going around. Suck it up.

Low on hope about finding, holding, or moving on to better work?  Getting that back is the first step. Then you and I, as your career coach, move on to diagnosing what's in the way, trying out the solutions and creating the communications you need. Free consultation. No pressure. After that, fees custom-made for your budget. Please contact for an appointment Jane Genova (text/phone 203-468-8579, janegenova374@gmail.com).