Nobody Cares What You Feel - And, You Probably Could Get in Trouble at Work Venting

Amazon contends that in this round of massive cuts the objective is to reset the culture. Before employers had the upper hand again (post-COVID) employees at such corporations doing RIFs might be hanging around grousing with each other about all of that. Probably no longer, not if they are in-tune with how much values have changed - and not only in the workplace. 

The Atlantic hammers: Emotionally venting has become unwelcome. In a more relaxed era sharing troubles had been a bonding ritual. It deepened the connection. Now that we're in overwhelm you're bound to be ducked if you're known to overshare what's wrong in your life or in the society. Yeah, we all know what's wrong with current government, the cost of living and weather.

Get it: No one cares what you feel about things. There's more: On the job or in a job search sharing critical feelings can get you in trouble. 

As an intuitive coach/tarot reader the usual I'm hearing about work is how quickly you can be locked out of a group if you're sized up to be a complainer. That could spill over to the manager's being told about your "concerns." You're called on the carpet. Or worse. With the exception of Montana, states in the US allow employers to fire for just about any reason they choose, with some exceptions. 

The playbook is to showcase that you buy into the program. That can seem to be so phony but balking about that could label you as out-of-touch. Good luck struggling to network when you're perceived as not credible. 

The reality is do what it takes to get, hold and move on to better work. Not be a cultural critic in the workplace. Leave that kind of analysis to Jeffrey Pfeffer, professor at Stanford Graduate School of Business and author of "Dying for a Paycheck." That's what he's paid for. Not you, unless you have power such as a board seat or are the CEO.

In society there's demanded that same ethos of artificial positivity. Given telecommunications technology, expect to be blocked if you default into sharing your feelings a bit too often and too intensely. Even the good stuff, which is also coming across as more noise.

So, what to do with feelings? 

Old-line stoic coping is back. So are release mechanisms like exercise and hobbies. There's also meditation to come to clarity about what's going on in you. If you try therapy, more of those professionals, if they're effective, will focus on not feeling but your cognitive processes. That is, change how you think. And you change your world. My meme is: Success is a mental game. 

Success is a mental game. Failure comes from being done in by the “committee” in your head.

Together, we liberate your thinking. Then we change your story. And, unleash success.

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