America's Brand of Success: Make Extreme Ambition Not Look Like Extreme Ambition

"Try hard but don't make it look like you're trying hard. Don’t be the 'gunner' aka that try hard who wants everyone's work, works 24/7, and makes life difficult for everyone else. Don't be that person ..." Fishbowl Big Law, June 15, 2023

Smart grinders always knew to not come across as, well, grinders. That was made into an ironic point of view in describing young strivers in terms of ducks. On the surface they seem like they are gliding. But beneath the surface they are peddling so hard. Obviously straining to succeed not only is unattractive in terms of personal branding. It invites everything from scorn (they are wrapped too tight) to sabotage (we will get them and rejoice at their downfall).

That’s why the relaxed, confident WASP persona in professional life dominated business in America. Success should appear effortless. That creates the meme that anyone could get there. Ah, America the land of opportunity. Beneath-the-surface extreme hustler Jay Gatsby (protagonist of the classic American novel “The Great Gatsby”) had that down cold.

Deviations from that norm usually peaked early in their careers. Their frantic efforts made them unpleasant to be around and dinged the image of the organizations.

Even in these crazy times that style continues to be the preferred model of leadership. Disney’s Bob Iger, law firm Paul Weiss’ Brad Karp and “Law & Order SVU” character Olivia Benson all have charm and calm baked in. That’s the vibe which reassures followers.

In coaching I pitch meditation. That helps create an aura of a relaxed sense of self. Exercise could also do that. So could bringing a dog to the office.

Damning is to be summed up as “trying too hard.”

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